Monday, March 21, 2011

"Planning" for Adoption

I am pretty sure that the word "planning" and adoption should never be used in the same sentence. My whole life I had this fantasy as to how things would play out. I would get married, have a great career, and when ready get pregnant and start my family. I would have a cute little house, a dog, and 2.5 children. But doesn't always go as planned!

The planner in me is having a problem with adoption. My internal scheduler is having a hard time deciphering the time frame. And the patience part of my brain is getting lots of exercise.

I get frustrated when you go to start a baby registry and it asks me for my due date. I'm having a hard time finding gender neutral clothing and bedding. And it's hard to not even know what season we will be bringing a baby home.

In the end I know it will all be worth it!

Welcome if you are reading for the first time. After suffering from infertility my husband and I have just completed our home study. (we are waiting for our social worker to finish writing it) We will be adopting an infant domestically at some point in the future. Thanks for reading!


Sharon said...

Here from ICLW!
The waiting can be torturous! We went from screening to taking our daughter home in less than 3 weeks, there was no time for registries or planning & it was wonderfully manic! Praying for a short wait!

victoria said...

I'm here from ICLW last month (you are in my reader now, so must be).

ART has nothing on Adoption in the nebulous waiting game. It is, simply, impossible to plan beyond the basics (and given that I have a friend who was only considering domestic newborn adoption but has been offered a situation with an 8 month old, even the basics are questionable).

We are in the same place. Our home study paperwork has been approved, we've had our interviews with the home study social worker, and our home inspection is this weekend. She said she'd begin working on our report so that it would be ready to go post home inspection.

The waiting...oh the waiting...

Is there a reason that you don't allow comments via Name/URL?

Jana said...

here from iclw.

that is exciting to have your homestudy done. i'm impressed you had a crib up and that you are registering for stuff. i couldn't bring myself to do much in the way of physical planning for a child until the adoption was finalized. but i think that's awesome that you are doing that.

Aub said...

Good luck with your adoption! I, too, am a planner. I think what you are up against right now would make me crazy, but you are right - in the end it will all be worth it!! Deep breaths!

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katherine.greve said...

Hi there! Visiting from ICLW! We are also in the midst of a domestic adoption and have one homestudy appointment left. Best wishes on your journey, and I look forward to reading more!

Ordinary Girl said...

Hi! Stopping by for ICLW. I'm a planner and organizer too and infertility made me feel like a crazy person when I couldn't plan or organize anything. I felt like our life was on pause while we were in the middle of all of it. I can't imagine what it must be like to be in your position but I'm sending you good wishes and happy thoughts. May your wait be short and soon all the torture of waiting wiped away by a little one. Good luck!